On Miracles and Cats

Jack Cat and Stella Calico and I have been apartment dwellers through this school year, and it has been an adjustment for all of us. I love my apartment. I am eternally grateful for it. I am eternally grateful for the wonderful job that had me moving to an apartment this year. I am also […]

Emotional Toddlers

I’ve recently diagnosed myself as a “feeler” with a little help from an online personality test. I’m an INFP, and as far as I’ve been able to understand this means that my feelings are usually so close to the surface that they freak other people out. I don’t think this means I feel more deeply […]

Always trust your cape

A few days ago, my little Stella Calico Kitty climbed up on top of a cabinet and convinced herself she couldn’t get down on her own. She cried for me to come rescue her. This is a regular occurrence in my house, and I always go to her when she cries. This time I was […]

Things I’ve learned from being a mixed up person in a mixed up world

1. Whatever the problem is, the root of the problem is fear. So you think someone has been insulting, mean, inconsiderate, egotistical, disrespectful, or dismissive? The problem is none of the above. The problem is fear. The person you have a problem with is driven by fear. Your reaction is driven by fear. Fear is […]

On Shame and Vulnerability

This Ted Talk from Brené Brown really had an impact on me. I ran across it a few months ago, and I’ve now read most of her books. I’m now a huge fan of vulnerability. Willingness to be vulnerable is one of the most courageous things a person can do. You can’t be vulnerable without […]

You can’t blame a goat for eating grass

“When people show you who they are, believe them.” Maya Angelou I saw this quote on Facebook a couple of times this week, and it stuck with me. I even went so far as to look up the Oprah segment where Maya Angelou shared this advice. It’s good advice. It’s solid. I know exactly what […]

The Idealistic Personality

Here’s a video about the INFP personality (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving). This is my personality type, and I’ve been trying to learn more about it (and myself) lately. The INFP is one of the personality types labeled as “Idealist.” Here are some videos about Idealists. Part 1: Overview Part 2: Idealists and Relationships Part 3: […]

Go with the flow

Tao Te Ching, Chapter 78 remember to be at your best pattern yourself after water nothing in all the world is softer or more powerful nothing in all the world can substitute for it nothing in all the world can stop it in their hearts everyone easily knows that the soft and weak will always […]

Just do the right thing

I’m borrowing a life lesson from my Daddy tonight because I’m fresh out of my own: “When we do what’s right, the Lord blesses us.” In another belief system, this might be called karma. What goes around comes around. Do right, and blessings come to you. This is not to be confused with playing tit […]

On listening to inner voices

I had a friend once who would say to me “time to change the channel” when I started talking too much about how I felt about one thing or another. I didn’t much care for this attitude at the time. If I was still talking, I still had something to say. I didn’t think that […]