I grew up cash poor and opportunity rich. \u00c2\u00a0Maybe you won’t even know what I mean unless you too grew up in this way. \u00c2\u00a0Some people are born poor without anything to offset the mental and physical impact of deprivation. \u00c2\u00a0Others, like me, grow up with all they really need to thrive despite never having much in the way of money or possessions. \u00c2\u00a0This is the way of teachers’ and preachers’ children, who never fear starvation or homelessness, who never go without educational advantages, but who at the same time don’t have a whole lot in the way of toys, clothes, or even arcade change.<\/p>\n
This is what I can say about myself, but I didn’t know it was true until after we left Elizabeth Cottage. \u00c2\u00a0Something about the combination of childhood itself, a large family, and life in the middle of a college campus insulated me from worry or awareness of problems outside my own day-to-day existence. \u00c2\u00a0Later I would notice and care about disparities in my lifestyle and those of my friends. \u00c2\u00a0At 12 and 14 I cared. \u00c2\u00a0At 7 I didn’t know there were any disparities.<\/p>\n
Part of this I owe to the fact that not only were both my parents working by the time I was old enough to have any awareness of possessions, but my older brothers and sisters were as well. \u00c2\u00a0They worked part-time on newspaper routes, baby-sitting jobs, at a drug store a couple of blocks away. \u00c2\u00a0They brought candy and trinkets home with them. \u00c2\u00a0None of it was ever much, but between them all, I always had something new to call my own.<\/p>\n
When you’re the youngest of six, you’re everyone’s baby. \u00c2\u00a0This will become a bothersome fact well before the age of 40, but it’s not so bad at 4.<\/p>\n
I think of this, of the buffers I had between me and the world, and I wonder if my memories are incorrect. \u00c2\u00a0Proust would say they are necessarily incorrect no matter who I am. \u00c2\u00a0Memory itself is unreliable at best. \u00c2\u00a0I know this even as I write something like this, something like my last post about growing up in Elizabeth Cottage<\/a>.<\/p>\n Physics teaches us that we cannot observe an event from multiple perspectives at once. \u00c2\u00a0The more certainty we have on one angle, the less certainty we can apply to others.<\/p>\n This is true. \u00c2\u00a0We can’t even tell the story of an event from multiple perspectives at once. \u00c2\u00a0I have no real desire to try.<\/p>\n I remember a house where I was happy. \u00c2\u00a0I remember watching Yogi Bear <\/a>while someone went outside to turn the antenna. \u00c2\u00a0I remember faking illness to stay home on Sunday nights for Wild Kingdom<\/a> and The Wonderful World of Disney<\/a>. \u00c2\u00a0I remember a dog named Booger and male cat named Thomasina. \u00c2\u00a0I remember learning how to polish silver and putting together puzzle maps of the United States. \u00c2\u00a0I remember people passing the Reader’s Digest around and everyone reading a joke from it out loud. \u00c2\u00a0I remember painting fire hydrants red, white, and blue in anticipation of the nation’s bicentennial. \u00c2\u00a0I remember my brothers working on a car they called White Lightening and driving me to school with anything from Led Zeppelin to Emmylou Harris playing on the radio.<\/p>\n What I don’t remember are the dark edges and undercurrents of my world. \u00c2\u00a0Vietnam was going on, and it was on my TV every day, but it didn’t touch my child’s world. \u00c2\u00a0Later the images I saw from birth on the evening news would haunt me. \u00c2\u00a0They didn’t mean anything to me then. \u00c2\u00a0I didn’t really know that they were real.<\/p>\n The town around us, the state and country around us, was divided over racial issues, but I didn’t know anything about that either. \u00c2\u00a0Some of the politicians I remember hearing speak as a child were segregationists. \u00c2\u00a0I only learned about that from school books later. \u00c2\u00a0Some of the men who were part of the church that supported the school were active members of the Ku Klux Klan when I knew them, but I didn’t know that then.<\/p>\n Later someone told me that the church withdrew its support over the admission of black students to the college, that my father had taken a stand to accept black students. \u00c2\u00a0I didn’t know that then. \u00c2\u00a0I remember that there were black students on the college campus, but I didn’t know at the time that the world around me was at war over their presence any more than I knew that this same world was at war over my integrated elementary school. \u00c2\u00a0I could tell this story with my parents cast as heroes of civil rights. \u00c2\u00a0Then I could back up and tell it 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